There is a fine line between being protective and possessive, and if you are on the verge of innocent possessiveness, it can be more risk. Actually, it always starts with affection, like we should spend more time together but later complaints start. For example, “You spend more time with your family. So what’s the point of us being together?” Or “You’re out of town for work a lot of the time, and I don’t like that at all?”
With time these statements turn a shade darker and with it they start threatening, emotional blackmail and finally crying. So the question is, is this kind of behavior normal? So let us tell you about this in detail.
Why Are You Possessive?
Possessiveness can be of any kind and is a result of insecurity and self-loathing. This happens when you become too dependent on other people and expect them to make you feel special and loved. Possessiveness starts with self-love and self-confidence. In such a situation, you always need someone with you so that you can keep yourself happy, safe and secure.
When are you Crossing the limits?
How do you know if you are causing your partner stress? We have made a checklist here to know it.
- Do you check your partner’s Facebook or WhatsApp account or call logs?
- Do you carefully monitor their interactions with the other gender, be it their friends, co-workers, etc., and fight with them because of it?
- Have you emotionally asked your partner to cut off contact with your friends?
- Do you call them frequently and ask them where they are and what they are doing?
- Do you stock people on their friend list or even on social media?
- Do you ask your partner to cancel programs that require them to be away from home for extended periods of time?
- Have you made your partner the center of your life without leaving any space for your family, friends or even your own life?
If Your Answer is Yes Then…
If you answered yes to any of the above, then you need professional help because people who are very insecure or possessive can also have borderline personality disorder. Those who have BPD are unable to control their emotions, be it jealousy, possessiveness or hyperactivity. In such a situation, do not avoid these signs about possessive behavior at all.
